Join me as a try to feed my family lots of Raw and Superfood. I like to write about the edible garden, exercise, and learning to love my natural expression. I am a Family Practice Physician and believe there are alternatives approaches to feeling your best.
This past August most everything in my closet was too big on me and I had a few occasions to be dressed up to look forward too. I always dressed plain and practical as a mother of three boys. It has to be easy to wash. I like modest at the office, (skirts below the knees, sensible neck line, 3/4 sleeves. Also sleeves because its often cold in the office). I am able to wear any color, but it's style that hard to deal with when you are over-weight. So I ended up with mostly baggy tents. Being overweight made it impossible for me to find descent things. A lot of "fashion" clothes IMO is sleazy and not sensible for the office.
I went shopping with my mother who has much more fashion sense then me. Quite by accident the shopping, started when I tried on two simple yoga skirts on Sport Authority. One gray, one black. Simple lines. The right length. Nothing bulky. When I looked in the mirror I couldn't believe it was me and that I actually fit in something! My mom was taken back also with my delight. Recently I hadn't been shopping with her. She's too skinny. I did need to find suitable blouses to wear with the skirts. We headed off to Steinmart to find co-ordinating tops. My mother could be a personal shopper. She pulled so much off the racks and quickly for me to try on. She knows how to make coupons work. It's the first time in a long time, I liked how I looked in almost everything. What we liked the most for the office, was still in my modest comfort zone, but with more layers (vests) and embellishments (studs and beads), a hint of animal skin in the background (note the vest and the skirt below), but not bold animal print. I picked up a few pants. For home I like to be comfortable and sleeveless. I am fine with tanks, shorts and, pants at home, the gym, and when I am with John. I picked out a few fashionable tanks that looked like more than gym clothes or yard clothes.
She also picked out wedge heels for me! At my heaviest I couldn't even fit in a woman's shoe and was buying flat sandals and men shoes at Dillards. I wore men's sandals for about 3-4 years. I was almost nervous to report to work with such a shift. I am loving it. I feel so much more confident. Getting a new wardrobe as you trim down and tone up is a big deal. Getting used to yourself isn't always easy.
Not to long after my wardrobe make-over, my blog mentors Green Smoothie Girl and Trish both had Dress your Truth make-overs. The DYT program is about identifying your energy style and subsequently knowing what kind of clothes suit you. I've actually done personality profiling long before and could spot what I am and what I am not in fashion languague. I am not soft and subtle (2) and I am not pretty girlie (1). In college I called type 1's sorority girls. I could never wear bows and ruffles. That leaves me a (3) professional or (4) bold. My disclaimer is that with all due respect, I've not done the DYT course yet, but my friends' post and make-overs came at such a time I could identify so much. IMO opinion I lean towards a 3, but could make 4 work for me as well. I can wear pastels as an accessory piece with the other clothing professional or bold. I do look forward to learning more about DYT in time.
My mother had even gone through my closet when we got home and paired up shirts, belts, vests, in ways I didn't think would work. Without her knowing these types (she has never heard of DYT), she is more of a fashion expert than me. With all this information, I am able to make the clothes in my closet work for me now. But also now I am seeing how a busy print can be toned down with a solid vest, for example.
My friends' make-overs included hair and make-up and more. At that time I had let all my bleach blond highlights grow out to the straggly light brown natural color. Now, I have a few very soft highlights in the front. I like the more natural look with just a few highlights. I am not planning to go back to all over highlights. I go to an experienced hair stylist and have always had an expert opinion on my hair if I kept it up.
I don't wear (much) make-up. I struggle with being all natural vs the make-up thing. I would like to go for a make-over some where to at least know the options for making my skin tones even, maybe a little neutral blush, eye shadow, and gloss. I know I would never wear more than those. I haven't had time to look into it. I know if someone puts eyeliner and mascara on me, I would hate it. I hate black streaks under my eyes all day. That holds me back from a learning about any make-over because I have a feeling once you start, you can't stop.
I hardly wear jewelry. Mostly it breaks, so I keep it simple. (only a star-of- David necklace, and I haven't changed my small earrings in 100 years, sometimes I don't wear earring's.) Big necklaces like suggested to my friends would be in my way. I don't have scarves-- in my way and too hot. We bought some big belts and stylish neck lines. As I am writing this, I am thinking about getting one of my Grandmother's rings fixed. Whoo hooo. Maybe I'll even get another star-of david necklace so I have options.
I have always tended to get solid brown and solid black skirts or shirts if I found one I liked and then it would be practical if I ever found a print to wear with it. That line of thinking still seems sensible and true to my style as long as there is one prominent other color. I am always cold at the office and I have always told myself I want more sweaters. Now I have another reason, is that layers suit me! The photo above is what I wore to the office today. I was cold. I would like a 3/4 sleeve fitted T for under the vest. (Now I have muscles, I am kind of modest about my tremendous arms. ) That's my gray yoga skirt. This below picture is the day my mother helped me in my closet. Old skirt with knew cowl neck. Previously I was wearing the skirt with a solid black top with a shine to it. Much better now. I have an outer sweater for that, and the belt goes well with both outfits. I love it and wore it earlier this week.
Denise Punger MD FAAFP IBCLC & her husband John Coquelet DO are in private practice in St. Lucie County, Florida. They have three unschooled, xbox loving sons, who are first degree black belts in karate. Her perspective as a board certified family physician with expertise in breastfeeding is truly unique. Permission to Mother is her first book. Much of it has been worked on at home with the three boys active in the background. The holistic side of her practice has taken off with emphasis on nutrition, lifestyle, and bio-identicals.
I didn't know the full impact of my eating choices. I let my husband be in charge of our food. All he ever brought home was "take-out." I am so glad I found the strength and the resources to be in control. This photo is about 6 years ago. Three years ago, Sept, 2007, is when I started sugar-free... now I am doing Raw and also Beauty Profiling. There is always something new to look forward to when it comes to self improvement.